They say only about 8 percent of people who set New Year’s resolutions are actually successful in keeping them. Sadly, I have found myself falling into the category of the other 92 percent too many years in a row. Even when I start out strong, plan in hand and enthusiasm strong, I find myself giving up some time around late February/early March. I realized that I was setting unrealistic, unspecific, and frankly, basic-ass goals for myself. Goals that were nice in theory, or on social media, but honestly, quite irrelevant to my life.
In the past, my resolutions have been focused around health and fitness. Generic “get more fit” goals matched with a fitness plan that was exhausting to maintain while working and going to school full time. I have been healthy and active my whole life, but I always chose these goals for other people. I wanted to look good for so-and-so, or whatshername was doing it too! All that bullshit.
This year is going to be different. I want to set a New Year’s resolution or two that are going to better my life for me. It is my fucking life after all.
- Improving My Health & Fitness (Of course!)- While I already have a jump start on this side of my journey of self-improvement, there is always room for more improvement. I started by joining the WCC fitness center, which I have been fairly consistent about attending over the last month or so. (Go me!) My plan is to maintain the 3 days/a week schedule as I’ve found it to not only be doable, but it has also improved my mood.
Everyone in the fitness world knows that getting in shape requires a balance of diet and exercise. So I have also started eliminating fast food, refined sugar, and soda from my diet. Thankfully I lost my sweet tooth with adulthood, but I am far from enjoying my coffee black. Along with these eliminations, I would also like to step up my cooking game. I have learned to love many vitamin-packed foods such as brussel sprouts, salmon, and beets, but I’ve gotten into a bad habit of just eating whatever is in the house (yogurt, almonds, cheese and crackers, [Insert munchies here]). So to resolve this problem, I aim to make at least three home cooked dinners a week as well. That’s honestly not that many… Plus, I have a folder bursting full of delicious recipes that I have been too lazy to try! No more of that in 2016!
- Finding a New Hobby – This one may count as cheating as I have already found a new hobby idea, but I haven’t pursued it yet! Being that work has been excruciatingly slow with the holidays this month, I have found myself reading numerous home decor and renovation blogs. Many of these blogs include before and after DIY furniture or upholstery projects that seem relatively easy to do with the right tools and material. I have always loved the idea of taking something old and invaluable and making it beautiful and luxurious. So I began to think of what kind of project would be useful to me in the future that would also be moderately cheap to complete.
My mother is beginning the long process of cleaning out the house in which she raised 4 children over the course of 30+ years. There are many things that need to be thrown away, but there are also many things that she will not be able to take to her new, much smaller, condo. These are things that do not hold much value, but instead they hold memories. When my father died, my mother bought brand new bedroom furniture and donated most of their old furniture. She had said it was a wedding present and she could not bear to sleep in the same bed without him. The only piece she couldn’t quite part with was the large wooden mirror that rested upon her dresser. Although she couldn’t thrown it away, she didn’t want to see it either. Since then it has sat forgotten in our basement. It is a solid mirror without cracks or flaws. With a small sander and a fresh coat of paint it can be something new that still hold memory, but is not as difficult of a reminder.
Unfortunately, because the weather has finally decided to be winter, I am not about to freeze my hands and ass off in the garage trying to start the sanding process. So I started looking for another project. This time, I came across my paternal grandmother’s old sitting chair. Once upon a time it was a soft pink color. Now it is a dingy grayish pink that I’m sure would make my grandmother roll over in her grave. The frame of the chair is stable and the upholstery fabric seemed easily removable. Gaining excitement, I set out to the internet and purchased a staple gun, fabric glue, and some extra stuffing. I cleaned out my brother’s old room in the basement and started to set up my little workshop. I have never upholstered anything in my life, but I’ve been doing my research and I have high hopes! Pictures soon to come!
- Expanding My Comfort Zone – True Life: I am a homebody. I trust very few people and I struggle to make friends because I am not a naturally bubbly person. I have my people and I love them, but I’ve run into one continuous issue over the last 5 years – people always leave (Shout out One Tree Hill). You see, I have come to peace with the fact that Ann Arbor is my home and although it is “Home” to many of my people, they have moved to bigger and better places. And do not get me wrong, I am ecstatic for my people. They are fulfilling dreams, going on adventures, and meeting new people constantly and it is a beautiful thing that they are able to do that. I know there will be a time in my life when I can as well, but for now, it is hard not to feel stuck here. And I am very thankful to live in a time where technology allows for such easy communication across the distance. I can still call my people and vent about a long day, or Skype my people when I need to feel less alone. It really doesn’t matter which state or country they live in, they will always be my people.
That being said, I am still very alone in this town I’ve known my whole life. So I decided that I need to meet more people. I chose to word this resolution as expanding, rather than stepping out of my comfort zone mainly because I still want to be comfortable! I know that there will be situations that may be uncomfortable at first, but I want to get to a point where those same situations will eventually feel comfortable as well. I do not have a set plan for this resolution, but whenever an opportunity arises to meet new people or experience new (sometimes scary) things, I am going to make a conscious effort to not retreat back into myself as I have been known to do in the past.
So there you have it, 2016. Last year was a total dick to me and I’m not about to let that happen again.
YOU GOT THIS!